Jealousy

This month’s Student Monthly Program was conducted by Shafia Nazreen, Moderator, Quantum Student Orientation, in the Quantum Meditation Hall, Kakrail. This month’s topic was ‘Jealousy in Student Life’.

Jealousy is one of the most powerful among negative emotions. It is the strong negative feeling one experiences when he sees someone else succeed. You can tell whether you are jealous or not by your reaction when one of your friends does better than you in an exam. You may congratulate him to maintain formality but deep inside you are thinking- ‘He is not better than me. How come he got the success? ’

When you are jealous, you stop thinking about yourself, your abilities and get busy in comparing yourself with others. You start counting someone else’s achievements. Your concentration shifts from you to the person you are jealous of.

Jealousy creates inferiority complex which makes a person unconsciously lag behind.

The roots of Jealousy:

* It often comes from your family
*It can also come from your surroundings
* Some people just tend to feel jealous

We all learn things from our family. Just as we learn good things, sometimes we also learn the wrong things from our family. Jealousy is one of them. Often parents love and care more about the male child than the female child. When they do, they unknowingly instill poisonous jealousy in the innocent young mind.

Students often feel jealous of their friends and classmates while competing for the first position. The jealousy goes to such an extent that sometimes we give the wrong suggestion, tell them the wrong answer during an exam or give the wrong exam timetable. When we are jealous, we think, “Only I should have it and no one else”. On the other hand the successful students contain jealousy by thinking, “It was my good fortune to have it and I should share it with others.”

Jealousy may seem harmless but it has long term effect. It can only harm you and make you a failure. Jealousy makes us narrow minded. When we are jealous we wish ill of others and if you wish ill of others you can never be well yourself.

Avoid being jealous by following the steps below:

1. Stop thinking “I and only I should have it, no one else.”
2. Wish well for yourself and also for others.
3. If you are jealous of someone then pray for his or her well-being.
4. Believe that your competition is only with yourself. Others are there to help you.
5. Get rid of negative thoughts by practicing meditation.
6. Be with the sangha.