Happy Family

When my son was born I was a student. During my pregnancy I have regularly practiced the meditation of joy. After his birth I have always given autosuggestions “we are always joyful, we are always peaceful’. With the grace of almighty my son wakes up every morning with a smile. He spends his whole day merrily. I used to live alone with him in a divisional town. There were times when I had to keep him to a grocer’s or to a woman from the slum to be taken care of when I was at the university. He adjusted himself with all the situations. Now he is 5 years old.

Within one week of our marriage registration my husband left for Italy. At first life seemed unbearable. Suffering from depression and uncertainties I started keeping bad companies and got involved in bad works. I didn’t even hesitate to start taking drugs. I attempted to commit suicide. After attending the course I felt, what a fool I was. I have destroyed the golden moments of life. Now I have started from ground zero. I have become more attentive to my studies, more respectful towards my in-laws and vowed to remain faithful to my husband.

My family life was in a chaos after my parents got separated. My parents didn’t have a good relationship. I used to live with my mother. Sometimes I had contact with my father. But my mother didn’t like me having contacts with him. She often misbehaved. At one time I felt as if the world was a prison cell and death was the only way out of here. After attending the course my way of thinking took a new turn. I regularly prayed for everyone in the family meditation. I tolerated my mother’s all mistreats, name callings, false complains and slanderings with a smiling face.

At an early age I got detached from my parents and relatives for some unexpected incidents. Being not able to lead a normal life I felt worthless and was without any joy. With my younger brother’s inspiration after attending the course I got a call to a new life. I have been able to bring myself closer to my family. Now everyone understands me, gives me importance. Even if there is anything to negotiate with my ill and short tempered father then I deal with him, which was beyond imagination.

After my two consecutive financial losses in 1997 and 2002 I fell totally depressed and broke. This affected my family life. Almost everyday, when I got back home I used to lose my patience and got excited over trifle matters. I also started taking drugs. At one time I noticed that my wife and children have moved far away from me. When I stayed home they cowered with fear of me doing something terrible. If I had to stay out of home for some reason then they felt relieved that I wasn’t home and so they would get relief from shouting and yelling for some days at least.

Before doing the Quantum method course I often used to have fights with my wife. This had a negative impact on our child. After participating in the course I challenged my wife that we won’t have any fights again. Two years have now passed since attending the course and we really never fought for once. I surrender as soon as she wants to start a fight. If I knew it’s so much fun to lose a fight and so beneficial then I would have never fought before.
N Zaman

After my separation with husband I gradually became very restless and impatient struggling with life. I even beat my child when I got angry. I used to say a lot of negative things about his father. After attending the course I am much free from these negativities. This had positive impact on my child’s education, too. Where as he ranked 3rd in his class for the last 2 years now he ranked 1st in his last 2 semesters.

My father was a very ill-tempered person. He often used to shout at us. He hardly talked to my sisters. He had a business of trees in the hilly regions. If he went there then he would keep no updates on the family for weeks and months. I tried to make him understand in the command center that ‘father they are your close ones. Please behave nicely with your children. Be informed about them. Pray for their maximum utilization of their talent and skills. With much grace of the Allah now he behaves very nicely with everyone. He is always taking news of others.

My husband didn’t want to spend a penny for his wife and children. He scrutinized everything – why the rice ran out, where did the eggs go, why the washing powder ran out so quickly etc. he never bought any clothes for his wife and daughter throughout the year and not even during Eid. If I got anything from my father, my husband would take that away, too. When in 2008 Gurujee announced that, ‘2008 is for Quantum, 2008 is for you’ I started visualizing that my husband is regularly giving me money.

I attended the Quantum Method course after 3 years of my marriage. After the course I felt a tremendous change in my attitude towards my in-laws. I started regarding my mother-in-law with the same love and respect as that for my mother. I also treated my husband’s brothers and sisters as my own. For this compassion for my in-laws I am successfully leading my family life for 14 years now. They also feel closer to me than their own brothers and sisters.